Are You A Conversational Narcissist? Here Are Several Signs Plus 5 Expert Tips

Engaging in a conversation where the focus constantly shifts back to the other person can be draining.

This phenomenon, often perpetrated by “conversational narcissists,” is more common than one might think.

Shadé Zahrai, a Harvard-trained behavioral scientist, recently shed light on the characteristics of a conversational narcissist with CNBC and offers advice on how to maintain a balanced dialogue with them.

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1. A primary sign of narcissism is the tendency to turn any query into a self-centered monologue. Narcissists often shift the topic to something related to their experiences once they finish speaking. Zahrai suggests employing “conversational threading,” a technique that involves using keywords from their discourse to bring the conversation back to a more equitable ground.
2. Another hallmark of narcissistic conversation is the individual’s propensity to speak passionately without giving others a chance to respond, or reducing them to an audience. Assert your desire to share your perspectives or experiences, but foster a more reciprocal exchange, Zahrai recommends.
3. Narcissists also have a knack for steering the conversation back to themselves whenever it veers away. Zahrai advises asking direct questions using the “I need advice” technique or employing the “acknowledge and segue” approach to redirect the conversation to the initial topic.
4. Conversational narcissists may also resort to patronizing or condescending language, attempting to portray themselves as the most informed individual in the room. Establish clear boundaries and encourage a respectful discourse by resisting defensive responses, Zahrai explains.
5. Lastly, narcissists often try to overshadow the achievements of others with their own — supposedly superior — accomplishments. It can be tiring to address every instance of one-upmanship, Zahrai notes. It is often most effective to call out the narcissist, and foster a space where both parties can share without competing.

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